20June2008
Deborah May Ames: November 23rd, 1955 – June 18th, 2008
Posted by admin under: Blog.
Deborah Ames went home to be with Jesus at 6:15pm on June 18th, 2008. Her family was at her side as Jesus ushered her into His loving arms.
20June2008
Posted by admin under: Blog.
Deborah Ames went home to be with Jesus at 6:15pm on June 18th, 2008. Her family was at her side as Jesus ushered her into His loving arms.
16June2008
Posted by admin under: Medical Update; Prayer Requests.

Dear Friends-
First and foremost we would like to thank all of you who have come alongside of us as we battle Deborah’s cancer. God has used you all in ways that have been so comforting and helpful and we will be eternally grateful for your love and support.
Second, we would like to thank Dr. Jilani, Deborah’s Oncologist, for his hard work but most of all his honesty and kindness to our entire family. Dr. Jilani is probably the best Physician Deborah has ever had and we thank God for putting him in our lives.
That being said, it is with a sad heart that we bring you this latest update regarding Deborah’s condition. After careful prayer and consideration of all available treatments, Deborah and Dr. Jilani decided to permanently discontinue chemotherapy treatment for her Ovarian Cancer. Deborah was placed on Hospice care last Wednesday in order to provide comfort for her symptoms. Our goal with Hospice Care is to provide quality end-of-life care and comfort for Deborah because she is no longer able to care for herself. We as a family have decided to care for her at home where she will receive loving care from us, our relatives and friends in cooperation with the Hospice nurses and doctors.
Although we as a family were hoping for a different outcome, we realize that Deborah has already beaten the statistics for women her age who are diagnosed with Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer. We truly believe that it is by God’s Grace alone that He has brought her safe this far and we are all confident that it will be by God’s Grace He will lead her home to be with Him. What is most important to Deborah is that we as a family take every opportunity we can to reach one more person for Christ, despite these circumstances.
We are reminded of the men and women of the Bible who, despite the odds against them, relied on God’s Grace and Strength in order to bring glory to Christ and they serve as an inspiration and a guide to Deborah. The greatest guide of all during this time is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ who has still has the power to heal and the desire to give comfort to those who are sick.
As you read this, you may be wondering how you can get involved and be a part of what God is doing in the life of Deborah and her family. Here are a few things to keep in mind.
Perhaps the best way you can help is to pray for all of us as a family. Here are a few specific prayer requests:
If you have any questions please feel free to email webmaster@deborahames.org or feel free to leave a comment, prayer or scripture of encouragement on this website. We will be reading them to Deborah everyday. We will also be posting updates more frequently so that those of you who are further away are able to keep in touch with what is going on in the life of our family.
In Christ,
The Ames Family
Cliff Ames Sr., Deborah Ames, Cliff Ames Jr. and Nadene Ames
13June2008
Posted by Nadene under: Nadene's Thoughts; Prayer Requests.
Dear Friends,
As some of you may know, Deborah, my mom, has been off of chemotherapy treatments for the last month. It is now time to meet with her Oncologist once again to discuss her current condition, symptoms, treatment options, medication etc. Please pray for the following as we meet with her Doctor on Monday, June 16th.
28May2008
Posted by admin under: Cliff Jr's Thoughts.
Okay so maybe the clever play on words has caught your attention. Today’s post is really going to be a semi-helpful guide to dealing with waiting before and after a Doctor’s appointment. Yesterday I did not deal with waiting very well and at the end of a long day my frustration with Doctor’s offices and hospitals was pretty intense. So here are a few things to consider based on the events yesterday.
This list is not exhaustive and if you can think of anything to add here, feel free to do so by leaving a comment below.
24May2008
Posted by Cliff Jr. under: Medical Update; Prayer Requests.
Mother’s Day
Going back a few weeks, Mother’s Day for us as a family was great. We all went to church as a family for the first time in several years. Afterwords we had a quick lunch and then went to see the South Bay Civic Light Opera’s production of “Miss Saigon” at the Redondo Beach Performing Arts Center. Although the subject matter is pretty serious, we all had a good time enjoying the talent that was on stage. For dinner we went to Black Angus and enjoyed some great food and some great fun joking back and forth about various topics. Over all, it was great to spend the entire day together, enjoying each others company, as well as having the opportunity to get out of the house for the day.
Medical Update
After careful consideration, and as a result of the various blod tests, my Mom and Dr. Jilani (her Oncologist) made a decision to stop chemotherapy treatment for a month. The drug she was on had initially brough her CA125 (cancer count) down several hundred points, but unfortunately it didn’t bring it down far enough. With Mom’s CA125 hovering around the same numbers, and her quality of life being compromised due to repeated blood transfusions and breathing problems, it seemed best to give my Mom’s body a break from the chemo for the time being. One month from now she will be reevaluated to see if another drug is the answer or to discuss other options as to her treatment. For now she is using Oxygen to assist in her breathing and is generally taking it easy in her day to day schedule.
Prayer Requests
Here are some things that you can be praying for:
Thank you so much to all who check this blog everyday and are continually standing by our family in prayer, love and support of all kinds.
7May2008
Posted by Nadene under: Nadene's Thoughts; Prayer Requests.
We also would like you to say a special prayer for our dear friends The Coco Family. One year ago today they lost their beautiful 23 year-old daughter, Alese Coco to Hodgkin’s Disease. The Coco Family has been a source of inspiration to us as well as a constant stream of tireless help for our family, despite their incredible loss. Today also marks the launch of Fight2Win.org, a non-profit organization dedicated to funding research to fight and win the battle against Hodgkin’s Disease.
Thank you again, all for your support in prayer. I don’t know where we would be without your prayers and intercession. We are eternally grateful for your effforts.
23April2008
Posted by admin under: Nadene's Thoughts; Prayer Requests.
Here is a recap, in case some of you are reading our story for the first time.
Deborah, my Mom, is currently on chemotherapy treatment for her ovarian cancer. She goes to chemotherapy every Monday for about two hours. She then gets a blood test every Friday to check her blood levels to make sure they are all in good standing. When Deborah’s blood levels get low, she has to get a shot to boost them. If the shot alone is not enough, then she has to get a blood transfusion. So far in this chemotherapy, she has had to receive two tranfusions. One was about three weeks ago and the most current transfusion was this past Tuesday, April 15. After the transfusion this week, she has been very tired. Unfortunately, at the moment chemotherapy and low blood levels are not all she is dealing with. Deborah is also taking antibiotics for a bladder infection. The antibiotics have caused her to have a headache for the last few days
Please pray for the following in the coming days and weeks:
Thank you all so much for your prayers. We know they make a difference!
In Christ,
Nadene Ames
11April2008
Posted by Nadene under: Nadene's Thoughts.
When I first found out that my mom had cancer, I felt that all we had to do as a family, was pray, do what the Dr.’s said, and she would be healed. I thought of her cancer as something that would be solved by surgery and drugs. Cancer is not what I thought it was. I soon learned that the solution was not simple. There were very few answers and all of them were complicated. But God was going to show me more of Himself through all of it.
I was actually trying to finish my undergraduate work at The Master’s College, when this journey began. I am so thankful that I was placed at TMC during that time. We found out that my mom had to have surgery in October, so I arranged with my professors to be gone and tried to get ahead on assignments. Funny how God changes our plans isn’t it? I planned to be gone for maybe two or three days but I ended up being out of school for two weeks!! Folks, you do not miss two weeks of college and pass all of your classes! I started thinking that I would have to postpone my last semester, but God had the perfect plan in place. He gave me amazing professors who gave me grace upon grace for assignments. They helped me after class to catch me up on material, they set aside handouts, and gave me tips on how to get the most out of my work without taking too much time on it. I ended up passing all of my classes that semester despite those two weeks out, and my time spent going home on weekends. I don’t want to make it sound as if I didn’t work for my grades. I certainly earned them, I did all the work asked of me, but I was given a different time table to do it in. I am so thankful that God put those gracious professors in my life at that time.
Now I am finished, not only with undergrad, but I have my teaching credential! God’s grace has been abundant! I am now experiencing God’s grace in the every day care of my Mom and the household responsibilities. God has taught me a lot about communication, patience, endurance, and how to glorify Him in the “small” things like dishwashing and toilet cleaning
God has opened my eyes to some of the gifts He has given me. For example, I love to organize things around the house. I never used to think of this as anything but a neurotic behavior until this last weekend. I had the opportunity of going on a retreat where the speaker focused the weekend on spiritual gifts and strengths that God has given us. It came to my attention that God is organized. There is order in the universe and therefore organization is one of His gifts to me. (I know it’s not a specific spiritual gift but it’s still something God has given to me.) God opened my eyes to see that my love of organization and my ability to organize is from Him and is an attribute that He possesses. So in my organization, I can glorify Him. I think that’s an amazing thing!
My hope as you read this blog that my family is working to compose, is that you will see God’s hand in our lives. Not so you will think about how great we are, but so you will see how great our God is and know and believe that He has His hand in your life as well. God is working, He is not indifferent to our sufferings and trials. There is one sentence that my mentor said to me in one of my darkest moments when I was scared, hurt and felt that God was distant. OUR GOD DOES NOT CHANGE WITH OUR CIRCUMSTANCE. What a hard yet comforting concept. He is the same, yesterday, today and forever. My earthly circumstances may change but God will remain the same. Hope in that… believe in that. Believe in the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. The God that calmed the storm and fed the five-thousand. Believe in and Trust Him, and then look forward to the eternity you will have in His presence.
5Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
-Proverbs 3:5
In Christ,
Nadene Ames
10April2008
Posted by Cliff Jr. under: Cliff Jr's Thoughts.
When I first found out that my Mom was diagnosed with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer my heart was crushed. Over the years I have been a tough son to raise and my Mom bore the brunt of my rebellion and disrespect before I became a Christian. After I became a Christian I spent years trying to repair the relationship but there was no need… my Mom loves me no matter what. When I serve her, she loves me. When I sin against her, she loves me. When I make poor decisions, she loves me. When I make the right decisions, she loves me. When I do something for God’s glory like sing or act or make a movie, she loves me. When I do something for my glory, like whine, complain or lie, she still loves me.
My heart was crushed because for the first time I realized that I could loose one of the few people on this earth that love me no matter what.
During her first major stay in the hospital I was in the midst of my first month at The Master’s College. Feel free to visit my blog to find out why that is more significant that it sounds, but trust me when I tell you that when I enrolled there I thought my greatest burden would be homework, reading and writing. But, suddenly things were turned upside down. Suddenly, as I watched my Mom struggling to breath and fighting for her life, understanding the theological implications of Genesis 3 became essential to my day to day life. Suddenly, as my Mom slowly began to regain her strength only to be hammered by the merciless side-effects of chemo, writing a paper about the role of medicine in the life of a believer had taken on new meaning.
And then there were the people that God placed into my life. My roommates, my wing-mates, my dorm-mates, my class-mates all came along side of my family and I like the pillar of cloud that protected the Hebrews from the Egyptians in Exodus.
19Then the angel of God who was going before the host of Israel moved and went behind them, and the pillar of cloud moved from before them and stood behind them, 20coming between the host of Egypt and the host of Israel. And there was the cloud and the darkness. And it lit up the night without one coming near the other all night.
-Exodus 14:19-20 (ESV)
The faculty and staff at TMC prayed for my Mom everyday in class, at lunch and in their staff meetings. Friends and faculty alike pleaded with the Lord to spare her life and to heal her. It was during that time I learned something about my prayers to the Lord. I learned that it was okay for me to pray that God would heal my Mom, just so long as I remembered that there were two possible answers to that prayer. The first answer is that God would heal my Mom here on earth and allow her more time to Glorify Him. The second answer, was that God could heal her by taking her home to heaven to spend all eternity with Him where there will be no more sickness or suffering. From that day forward I have prayed that, by the power of the Lord Jesus Christ my Mom will be healed-either here on earth, or in heaven with Him-and that I would praise God no matter what His decision will be.
I can confidently say that while I am on this journey with my Mom, I will treasure and cherish every moment that I can get with her. Despite the fact that I feel guilty for being so far away at school, she has assured me that it’s what she wants me to do, and so I will continue to endure here at TMC during these trials. But every day I get to come home, every weekend I can sneak away, every class-period that my professors allow me to miss, I will use to love, serve, encourage and cherish my Mom. Not only because I’m a Christian and it’s the Lord’s command, but because she would do the same for me as an example of her unyielding love for her son and her unwavering love for her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Do the do: James 2:17,
Cliff Ames Jr.
9April2008
Posted by Cliff Sr. under: Cliff Sr's Thoughts.
As I think back to the early summer of 2006 I can’t believe how things changed so fast and how my wife has been so strong through this tough season of our lives.
I am grateful to God for his giving wisdom to the doctors who treat her.
I am awed at the people who come by to help us out with the various things that come up like driving her around or cleaning up our house. They are always coming up to ask how they can help and they do so with a deep heartfelt sense of “agape” love that is spoken of in scripture:
9Now concerning brotherly love you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love one another, 10for that indeed is what you are doing to all the brothers throughout Macedonia. But we urge you, brothers, to do this more and more.
-1 Thessalonians 4:9-10 (ESV)
In Christ,
Cliff Ames Sr.
8April2008
Posted by Deborah under: Deborah's Thoughts.
First and foremost I want to thank my Savior, The Lord Jesus Christ, for choosing me & my family for this journey.
I was relieved to hear the diagnosis of ovarian cancer on September 21st, 2006. I was beginning to think I was imagining the problems I was having physically, for the last 6 months. I Praised God the doctors had found something wrong, to explain everything that was happening to me. My family and I have now been traveling this road with our Lord Jesus Christ for almost 19 months. I have had 2 surgeries, 5 different chemotherapy drugs, with only 3 months off of therapy. However, whether I am taking steps on my own, or God is carrying me, I know He is beside me every moment and knows where this journey will take my family and I next.
I am thankful for every breath I take and every moment I spend with my family and friends. I am also thankful for all the prayers that have been prayed and continue to be prayed for my family and I. I know God is in every detail, even the ones we may consider to be bad. I have had and continue to have numerous opportunities to speak about my Lord Jesus Christ and my Faith, with many Doctors, Nurses, hospital personal who do tests on me or preformed procedures on me, and other cancer patients. I would never have had this blessed opportunity if I did not have cancer. God has a reason for everything that happens in our lives. I pray that anyone I come in contact will see Jesus in me an I can be used for God’s Glory!
Here are some of the verses that I have been resting in:
13I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
-Philippians 4:13 (ESV)14The LORD is my strength and my song;
he has become my salvation.
-Psalm 118:14 (ESV)28Have you not known? Have you not heard?The LORD is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He does not faint or grow weary;
his understanding is unsearchable.
29He gives power to the faint,
and to him who has no might he increases strength.
30Even youths shall faint and be weary,
and young men shall fall exhausted;
31but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength;
they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
they shall walk and not faint.
-Isaiah 40:28-31 (ESV)
I would not be able to walk this journey, without my Lord, or my family who have been there through the ugly days of sickness, days when I could not lift my head off the bed, or walk on my own. Praise God I am now able to do most things for myself almost every day.
We have also been blessed to have our church, Journey of Faith, filled with brothers and sisters in Christ who have come along side us to help. They have helped with everything from house cleaning, putting up a hand rail for me on the steps to our front door, bringing meals to the hospital for my family and meals to our home. I have also been blessed with many friends who gave me rides to Doctors appointments, and friends who have come to sit with us when I have had to make trips to the emergency room or have procedures done. I am so thankful to ALL who have been there for my family and I!!
I also want to thank my employer, World Impact, Inc. for their prayers and support through this time. They are an organization that is dedicated to bringing God’s hope to a hopeless situation, even if it’s bringing God’s hope to one of their own.
Our God is Awesome, Faithful, Righteous and Just. He is in control of all everything, His Will be done. It is His choice to make to leave me here for what ever time He KNOWS I can bring HIM GLORY.
God Bless everyone who reads this and responds by writing and or praying for all of us. May God keep you and your family in His tender care.
Your Sister In Christ,
Deborah
Philippians 4:13
17March2008
Posted by admin under: Blog.
On behalf of the Ames Family, welcome to deborahames.org. Here you will find the latest updates on Deborah’s battle against Ovarian Cancer, her thoughts on her Lord, her life and love of family. You’ll also hear from her friends and family as they fight this battle with her and walk alongside her. Be patient as we get things up and running and make sure you check back often for new features and updates.
If you have any questions, please feel free to contact: webmaster@deborahames.org
“13I can do all things through HIM who strengthens me.”
-Philippians 4:13 (ESV)